Marriage: What’s the Rush?

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 Aziz Ansari gets it. I’ve never quite understood people getting married so quickly. I always took marriage as a serious commitment. One of the most important decisions you will make in your lifetime.  This is someone who you will be spending the rest of your life with, through the good and the bad. How can you possibly know after a few months or as Aziz states, after a year and a half, know that this is the person who you want to be with FOREVER?! With divorces being all too common, how can you be sure that things will work out with the person you’re with? Do you reaaaally know them? I know I’m not the best person to talk about marriage, when my current thoughts on me getting married are the following: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

To take things further, I also will never understand people getting married so young! I’ve heard about people I used to go to school with who are married already and it just blows my mind. We have our whole lives ahead of us, what’s the rush?! I’ve never been in love so, maybe I’m the one who doesn’t “get it” but, I’ve just never been one to rush things. Feelings change and people change, we’re still growing trying to figure out our place in this crazy world. Again I say, what’s the rush?!

I know, I’m kind of sounding like a marriage grinch.  Obviously, I know there’s always the example of couples who do make it and do stay together after getting married quickly, having known each other for not too long. And then you have people who have been married for 20 years who get divorced. I guess that’s what scares me, the uncertainty of it all. It’ll either work out or not.  Life is unpredictable, everyone is different and everyone thinks they will be the exception but, looking at the statistics, a lot of marriages, unfortunately aren’t the exception. Marriage is hard, it takes work, and I know I would need more than a year to know for sure if I wanted to commit to a man for the rest of my life. Unless, of course, that man was Ben Wyatt, who I would marry in a heartbeat…. but he is taken…and fictional.

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